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Mindset - how is yours?

24th Aug 2020

“The view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life. It can determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you accomplish the things you value”. Dweck, C . Mindset: The Psychology of Success. Ballentine Books, New York. 2006.

How’s your self-talk these days? This determines how we view ourselves and if we speak negatively to ourselves (in our heads) it can have a significant impact on how or if we achieve goals we have set for ourselves. Overwhelm, feelings of failure, anxiety can lead to depression if we don’t change how we think of ourselves. Easier said than done? Maybe. The first step is awareness, aware of how we are feeling and how we speak internally about ourselves. Next step is learning strategies to stop our negative thinking in its tracks. Then, reversing the situation to more positive thoughts and self-speak. Sometimes writing things down helps, speaking to someone who knows how to listen well is also extremely helpful (note: people who listen well won’t tell you what to do, won’t tell you to stop being silly or something similar, won’t change the subject by talking about themselves and their issues, and also won’t be negative or derogatory towards your situation. Just so you know what to look for in a good listener, which is key). Learning new strategies for how you should speak to yourself especially if you feel like you aren’t succeeding in work/relationships/life in general. There are some great books out there to help. Apart from Carol Dweck, Karen Nimmo, a New Zealand clinical psychologist’s book Busy As F*ck, HarperCollins. 2019. is excellent.

How about your values. Have you figured out what your top 3 values are? This exercise alone can produce pretty amazing results in how you lead your life. You automatically become more focussed and less likely to self-sabotage your own success. Self-sabotage. Now there’s a topic! This interests me hugely and I will be writing about this further down the track. Mark Manson’s book The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a F#$% HarperCollins, USA. 2016.  is outstanding. The title is nothing like what you could possibly think as it’s all about finding your values to live your life by.

There is a short and easy quiz to help you figure out whether you have a fixed mindset or growth mindset according to Carol Dweck, to help you with reaching your goals or increase your levels of achievement. In the mean time here is a link to her TED talk

https://www.ted.com/talks/carol_dweck_the_power_of_believing_that_you_can_improve

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When She Rises, We All Rise

5th Aug 2020

Westpac Woman of Influence slogan “When she rises, we all rise” If you’re wondering what  the Women of Influence awards has to do with you, think about the slogan. When we can find our voice and find the words to go with that voice to stand up for our worth, the changes in this world will be huge. Perhaps like the butterfly effect theory. One small, positive word or change in behaviour will cause the same somewhere out in the world and on it will go. Positivity breeds positivity. These women are outstanding leaders in their field, but so are we all.

The late Celia Lashlie says it is on us, as woman, to set the tone of our life and our homes. It’s what we accept what goes in our homes and in our lives. If you are an ‘average’ middle of the road woman (as I am) what changes can you make for yourself to make your world better? Thereby making others’ worlds better. Making your claim on your worth, knowing what it looks like and standing up for you can shift the dynamics of preconceived notions of how a woman should look and sound, prejudice, sexism, and abuse (physical, emotional and psychological) to make our place better. Let’s start in our own backyard, our very own house to shift that dynamic.

 

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10 Weeks 10 Videos

1st Jun 2020

Hey! Looking for super effective training to help you with your job hunting? Or maybe you are wanting to be heard around the board room table or even ask for a pay rise? This 10 week, 10 video programme will scaffold and consolidate your learning, which is essential for learning. You will speak with authority, credibility, confidently and clearly. It will clear any 'chokes' and issues you are currently facing. Start today, there's no time to lose! 

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