4th Jun 2021
Is this burn out? There have been a number of conversations lately around burn out and how it actually looks to each person. Is it a feeling of ‘meh’, nothing makes you feel energized or excited? Is it wanting to avoid every single social occasion because the thought of smiling and holding a conversation makes you want to pull the duvet back over your head? What about making decisions? Even something as simple as what shall we have for dinner? Does that question bring to mind that emoji of the shoulder shrug? What about tasks that usually are really simple but you just can’t be bothered? In fact that, ‘can’t be bothered’ is something you think a lot. Or, ‘that’s in the too hard basket’ today. Maybe it's all of the above and maybe there's more.
These are some of what I feel on quite a number of occasions and it might seem bad, but when others tell me this is what they feel sometimes too, I feel better! I suppose it’s about not being the only one or these feelings are actually quite normal but what is key is what to do about it.
Advice I’ve been given – Don’t ignore it. Find ways to help you feel better.
Talk to a trusted person about how you are feeling.
Go for a walk in nature.
Write down your triggers; the what and when and also write down what makes you feel better (another name for this is reflecting, these are available free, email me if you can't find them on the website)
It could be finding a book to read on the subject (Busy as F@#$, by NZ Clinical Psychologist Karen Nimmo is in 10 chapters and it’s like 10 weeks on her couch.)
Looking for professionals who specialise in stress and burn out.
Sometimes it can as simple as learning the correct breathing techniques that reduces anxiety.
My Find Your Voice course runs online and you can start it whenever you are ready. This is what Melissa said after the first week -
“I have gone over the week 1 material and already found the breathing exercises really helpful. I am someone who can get a bit emotional in one on one meetings (especially if talking about performance/pay) and today I had a performance type meeting with my boss. I practiced the breathing method and even though I could feel a lump in my throat, my eyes didn’t well up so that was already a big step for me.”
This sort of comment helps me to fight that imposter syndrome thing that plagues me from time to time and left unchecked actually spirals into out and out anxiety. Because I want this programme to work for as many individuals as possible I make myself seek out feedback to refine the course and in all honesty, for me to keep going with it.
So thank you Melissa and everyone else who gets in touch with how my resources help them out in many different ways.
Another win for me this week was publishing the training manual on Amazon. A lot of procrastination and ‘it’s too hard’ in behind this action but it was relatively simple.
Heaps of rules on Amazon, one being is that it has to be exclusive to them so I’ve had to remove the option to purchase it off my website and online training school. But, you do receive it as part of ‘The Club’ or direct coaching.
Do get in touch if you have questions or would like more information about any aspect of this newsletter.
One final tip, be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with compassion at all times.