21st Sep 2020
Losing your voice is not funny when training others how to speak clearly, confidently and with authority is your actual business.
So, how did this happen? 5 reasons actually.
#1. I haven’t taken care of my vocal cords. I haven’t stayed hydrated enough primarily and I haven’t been projecting my voice in the correct way.
#2. I have been speaking for too long and too often – I haven’t rested enough. Sometimes by the end of the day I’m whispering. In my schedule I usually have chunks of time to do tasks that don’t include speaking but over the last month I've been cramming other things in. See #3.
#3. I have trying to do too much, take on too many projects that I can’t really fit into my day without something else being squeezed out or down AND not sticking to my knitting, taking on projects that are irrelevant to my business. But they sound fun! And it is fun! Until someone gets injured. Ahem.
#4. I haven’t said no. Similar to #3 but different in that I haven’t been honest. Sure, I can do that. When you do want to start? Ummm, well, I don’t really do that anymore but why not? Just this once.
In other words, I haven’t been honest. I generally believe in psychosomatic symptoms (as in there are other underlying factors behind the injury or illness) and this lost voice is telling me to say “No, sorry that doesn’t fit into my schedule at the moment” or “My business doesn’t offer that service anymore, try this one”.
#5. Because of all the rush and stress going on, my breathing has become inverted. Breathing into my chest as opposed to my diaphragm. This is speaking 101 and I have gone way off on some tangent and this ‘lost voice’ is saying ‘come back, we need you here’.
Here’s to rest, water, diaphragmatic breathing and saying “No.” Clearly and confidently.
If you need help with your voice here are 3 ways I can help:
Here's to your successful week, Miriam.
7th Sep 2020
Presenting, public speaking and pitching are a must for your success not only in business but also life in general. There are particular strategies, skills, techniques that help propel you out of your shyness, worry, fear, whatever it is that's holding you back to achieve.
Our voice is a powerful means of communication. How we articulate sounds, our pitch, tone, pace, use of pause, emphasis and inflection all communicate many cues as to who we are, where we come from and even what our intentions are. We can project our power, or perhaps lack of it, through our voice and those who listen to us can make judgements about many aspects of our life and whether they are ‘buying in’ to what we are saying.
Our speech and communicating effectively is a life- long skill. We build our confidence when we correctly articulate sounds, pronounce words and to speak with an effective voice that is heard clearly, is interesting to listen to and above all wins us what we are seeking.
Does the thought of not being heard worry or frustrate you? There are ways and means to solve this problem, don't be afraid to ask for help as it sometimes can be as simple as tweaking one or two things in either your preparation or delivery. Just ask!
31st Aug 2020
"You should've asked' I saw this meme on Facebook recently and it really made me think. Here’s the link if you haven’t read it yet. https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/
Read it first and then come back. If this couple depicted knew what effective communication looks like, sounds like and feels like, this situation possibly could have been avoided. Of course, there are many reasons why the situation could have arisen in the first place, but that’s why it is important to find your voice and use your words so every situation can be a win:win (thanks Stephen Covey for this very effective phrase). How can you create a win:win so to avoid this unhappy situation?
We all have brought history into our relationships today. It’s different now, being able to clearly state how it’s going to look and this is how we articulate what we want openly and honestly for our relationships to be healthy and happy.
Of course, easier said than done, it does take strength and perseverance but if we want our situations to improve, it’s up to us to make the changes.