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Is this burn out?

4th Jun 2021

Is this burn out? There have been a number of conversations lately around burn out and how it actually looks to each person. Is it a feeling of ‘meh’, nothing makes you feel energized or excited? Is it wanting to avoid every single social occasion because the thought of smiling and holding a conversation makes you want to pull the duvet back over your head? What about making decisions? Even something as simple as what shall we have for dinner? Does that question bring to mind that emoji of the shoulder shrug? What about tasks that usually are really simple but you just can’t be bothered? In fact that, ‘can’t be bothered’ is something you think a lot. Or, ‘that’s in the too hard basket’ today. Maybe it's all of the above and maybe there's more.

These are some of what I feel on quite a number of occasions and it might seem bad, but when others tell me this is what they feel sometimes too, I feel better! I suppose it’s about not being the only one or these feelings are actually quite normal but what is key is what to do about it.

Advice I’ve been given – Don’t ignore it. Find ways to help you feel better.

Talk to a trusted person about how you are feeling.

Go for a walk in nature.

Write down your triggers; the what and when and also write down what makes you feel better (another name for this is reflecting, these are available free, email me if you can't find them on the website) 

It could be finding a book to read on the subject (Busy as F@#$, by NZ Clinical Psychologist Karen Nimmo is in 10 chapters and it’s like 10 weeks on her couch.)

Looking for professionals who specialise in stress and burn out.

Sometimes it can as simple as learning the correct breathing techniques that reduces anxiety.

My Find Your Voice course runs online and you can start it whenever you are ready. This is what Melissa said after the first week -

“I have gone over the week 1 material and already found the breathing exercises really helpful. I am someone who can get a bit emotional in one on one meetings (especially if talking about performance/pay) and today I had a performance type meeting with my boss. I practiced the breathing method and even though I could feel a lump in my throat, my eyes didn’t well up so that was already a big step for me.”

This sort of comment helps me to fight that imposter syndrome thing that plagues me from time to time and left unchecked actually spirals into out and out anxiety. Because I want this programme to work for as many individuals as possible I make myself seek out feedback to refine the course and in all honesty, for me to keep going with it.

So thank you Melissa and everyone else who gets in touch with how my resources help them out in many different ways.

Another win for me this week was publishing the training manual on Amazon. A lot of procrastination and ‘it’s too hard’ in behind this action but it was relatively simple.

Heaps of rules on Amazon, one being is that it has to be exclusive to them so I’ve had to remove the option to purchase it off my website and online training school. But, you do receive it as part of ‘The Club’ or direct coaching.

Do get in touch if you have questions or would like more information about any aspect of this newsletter.

One final tip, be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with compassion at all times.

 

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The WHY of Finding Your Voice, Finding Your Words.

17th May 2021

When we can find our voice and find the words to go with that voice to stand up for our worth, the changes in this world could be huge. Perhaps like the butterfly effect theory. One small, positive word or change in behaviour will cause the same somewhere out in the world and on it will go. Positivity breeds positivity.

 

You may not perceive yourself as a leader, especially if you don't have a leadership role per se at work but we are all leaders of our own lives and also our homes. The late Celia Lashlie says it is on us, as woman, to set the tone of our life and our homes. It’s what we accept what goes in our homes and in our lives. If you are an ‘average’ middle of the road woman (as I am) what changes can you make for yourself to make your world better? Thereby making others’ worlds better.

Making your claim on your worth, knowing what it looks like and standing up for you can shift the dynamics of preconceived notions of how a woman should look and sound, prejudice, sexism, and abuse (physical, emotional and psychological) to make our place better. Let’s start in our own backyard, our very own life and home to shift that dynamic.

How do you even begin? In term of speech and voice development it starts with having the parts of your body that you need for speaking, relaxed. Shoulder rolls, relaxing your jaw, practising a smile, then frown and back to a smile; can get your face relaxed and ready for the next step which is correcting your posture. Make sure your ears are above your shoulders is the easiest way to do this. Next, it's learning the most effective way to use the full capacity of your lungs as well as controlling the outflow of your breath. Showing you how to do this requires too many words so go on to my teaching website www.sayitclearly.thinkific.com and have a look at the free video.

 

Or you could get in touch by booking an appointment or emailing to discuss where you are and where you'd like to be in terms of finding your voice and your words. 

 

Have a good week, Miriam.

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Children's speech and their learning.

9th May 2021

It’s fairly well known in educations circles that children’s speech is on the decline. (As are the literacy levels in general.) What that means is more and more children are becoming increasingly difficult to understand.

 

Their oral language test results are lower than what’s expected for their age or stage of learning and this can really hinder their learning in other areas of school; writing and spelling in particular.

 

Don’t leave this up to the school to work on because it’s what happens at home that is key for your children’s success.

 

Top tips to develop clear and correct speech for your children. 

  1.  When you are speaking with young children the most important thing is facing them, children learn by doing so if they can see your mouth as you speak they are more likely to pick up sounds correctly.  
  1. Eye contact gives them a greater sense of safety and that you are listening to them.
  2. Speak a little bit more slowly when you speak to them, to give their brains time to process what you said.
  3. Wait. Give them time to form a response. It takes, on average, 5 seconds for a child to respond to your question or comment so literally, a slow count to 5 in your head while you wait.
  4. Eat dinner around the table. Turn the TV off and remove all devices from the the table.

Children’s brains grow when engaged in conversation with an adult. 5 conversations turns are best, not instructions or close ended questions.

 

Children’s vocabulary increases, their understanding of correct grammar and syntax also increases, even if yours is incorrect. (I saw, not I seen. Th is enunciated Th not v or f, just to begin).

 

You learn so much about your child that you will never find out if you haven’t spoken with them and in our busy lives, dinner time around the table is the best place to do this if you are busy throughout the day.

 

As they tell you what they have seen or heard you can tell them whether something is correct or not. Some information a mean ‘friend’ may have told them, you can correct this opinion with what is actually correct.

 

General knowledge increases as you can discuss what is happening around the world.

 

The 3 ways I can help you improve your child’s speech

  1. Download the free e-book to get started (and you can join in)
  2. Book a time to call and discuss what concerns you have
  3. Go straight to the Say It Clearly school and take a look at this course that you can do at home that covers all aspects of speech development.

 

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