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Imposter syndrome.

15th Mar 2021

This is my challenge to myself, beat that beast. This is what it looks like to me - “who am I to be giving all this speech, speaking and communication advice and other stuff?” *Well. Um. Look. See. So.* At the moment I’m doing a lot of training for people in business for greater productivity and better results at the end of the day, right?* 

Having been in education for nearly 30 years, in business for 18 years (on and off). taught in NZ, the UK and at Toitu, Early Settlers Museum Dunedin. I also consult and advise in the early childhood sector as well as work in an online capacity for those at a distance to me. Children at the schools who run the online programme are lucky enough to have my daily speech lessons in their class. Small groups of teenagers have attended classes to assist with anxiety.

If you didn’t know already, I have published a book, won an award and featured in the media.

This is actually just a reminder to myself that I have done some things and I do have some knowledge, to keep that imposter syndrome at bay.

If this resonates with you too, the best tip to help with this is learning the correct method of breathing. The second best tip is to remember your accomplishments to remind yourself of how far you have come. Thirdly, reward yourself, especially small rewards, for every challenge you overcome.

What are your top ‘bes’ if imposter syndrome isn't it?  

Be heard 

Be understood  

Be respected 

Be appreciated 

Be approached 

Be confident

All of these can be attributed to how you speak and how you communicate. Enrol in Say It Clearly school (it’s free) to find the best course to achieve your ‘be’. All week we will be giving to someone you nominate, the same course that you get #get1give1. www.sayitclearly.thinkific.com 

Since I don’t know everything (nearly though) I do have some help. I'm going to be introducing them via the marvellous channel of social media so come meet them. 

 

*tropes and fillers to try and cover up nerves or lack of confidence. 

 

 

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International Women’s Day was yesterday. Let’s celebrate for the week.

8th Mar 2021

 

The challenges historically women have faced, and present day have been phenomenal. We are slowly chipping away at archaic notions of women’s ability to achieve, in whatever area we choose to achieve in. It’s hard to fathom what our forebears have had to put up with to get where we are today so let's celebrate their lives - here’s to the women who have shaped our country, our present and you, into the person with the opportunities you have today. Give them a nod of recognition (or even a hug). Cheers.

 

As the KIND women group ask frequently, are we there yet? No. But we’ve sure come a long way and we really must pause to acknowledge the successes of the past and present. Today, we have great representation of women in positions of leadership in Southland. Central government, local government, the media, business. Leaders, inspirational, mentors.

 

#ChooseToChallenge is the # for the international Women’s Day organisation.

 “A challenged world is an alert world and from challenge comes change. So let's all choose to challenge. How will you help forge a gender equal world? Celebrate women's achievement. Raise awareness against bias. Take action for equality.

IWD sees a number of missions to help forge a gender equal world.

  • Celebrating women's achievements and increasing visibility, while calling out inequality, is key
  • Celebrate women in tech and innovation.
  • Increase visibility of women creatives
  • forge women’s empowerment worldwide
  • applaud equality for women in sport
  • educate women on health decisions
  • build inclusive workplaces so women can thrive”

What will you choose to celebrate and challenge? For me, celebrating the women who worked their backsides off so my life could have more ease that they ever did.

And, supporting women to find their voice (of course) is my challenge and I accept it. Educating  women (any age) of the strategies and techniques to be heard, be understood, be appreciated, be respected and be approached.

Here’s to celebrating and challenging not just this week but always.

Miriam.

 

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Babies. Children. Teenagers. Their speech and communication. Anything of interest in here for you? If not, move on, or stay, you might find it interesting.

1st Mar 2021

 

Babies. Children. Teenagers. Their speech and communication. Anything of interest in here for you? If not, move on, or stay, you might find it interesting.

 

Still here? Great, let’s start with the wee ones. Play based learning is the only way for children to learn. What I mean by that is, it is the best way for children to learn. Children’s brains grow when they play, they develop motor skills, test working theories, develop a real sense of safety, they communicate, they challenge themselves, make decisions …a whole raft of complex processes take place. It is our job as parents and educators to respond to babies and young children in such ways as to develop them further. Look them in the eye, talk to them, sing to them, cuddle, hug, and kiss them. All of these fire the neurons in their brains and what fires, wires. You’re wiring in that love and care. It gives them a sense of safety so they can go out and take safe risks to grow.

 

 

Top tips to develop clear and correct speech for your children. 

  1.  When you are speaking with young children the most important thing is facing them, children learn by doing so if they can see your mouth as you speak they are more likely to pick up sounds correctly.  
  1. Eye contact gives them a greater sense of safety and that you are listening to them.
  2. Listening- remove these 5 filters for building a relationship so your children feel safe talking to you now and as they grow.  

Don’t.... 

  • Judge or criticize (you are so stupid, why would you do that?).
  • Dole out platitudes  (You’re so clever, you don’t need to worry about this) NB – more on this fixed mind-set type of praise later and why it can be dangerous.
  • Minimalise their concerns (oh, it’s no big deal, you’ll be right). 
  • Give out unsolicited advice.
  • Tell your own story or someone else’s around the same or similar situation.

 

PDF of ages and stages – this is just for ease of understanding. Your child could be any age or ‘stage’ and these tips could be helpful.

 

 

TEENAGERS! Yippee. Mumbling (speaking quietly, quickly and unclearly) can be a result of lack of confidence. ‘Let’s get these words out as fast as possible/as quickly as possible so we can move on from me’ can be a couple of reasons why teens are likely to mumble. Is there anything you as a parent can do about it? No, not really. They have to want to do it themselves so give them an option of getting speech lessons (can be online so no one knows about it) and then let it go, they’ll grow out of it. When they’re about 28. 

 

In 2004 The Ministry of Youth Development conducted a study with the premise to identify the factors that help most young people to lead a happy and productive life and to support them.  “Strengths based approach in young males, with particular emphasis on young men at risk of harming themselves. It found, rather than having a problem orientation and risk focus, a strengths- based approach works at developing the factors that protect young people.” 

 

My top recommendation for developing a strengths-based approach is “The Strength Switch” by Lea Waters. 

 

Learning alongside your children is THE most powerful way to learn and connect with your child at the same time. Yes, even capital letters. Teach yourself the 7 aspects of voice development for clear and confident speech with the Say It Clearly training manual and your children will learn alongside you.

 

Feel free to email me with any questions or comments. Or use the Book A Time button to do just that.

 

Miriam.  

 

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