7th Sep 2020
Presenting, public speaking and pitching are a must for your success not only in business but also life in general. There are particular strategies, skills, techniques that help propel you out of your shyness, worry, fear, whatever it is that's holding you back to achieve.
Our voice is a powerful means of communication. How we articulate sounds, our pitch, tone, pace, use of pause, emphasis and inflection all communicate many cues as to who we are, where we come from and even what our intentions are. We can project our power, or perhaps lack of it, through our voice and those who listen to us can make judgements about many aspects of our life and whether they are ‘buying in’ to what we are saying.
Our speech and communicating effectively is a life- long skill. We build our confidence when we correctly articulate sounds, pronounce words and to speak with an effective voice that is heard clearly, is interesting to listen to and above all wins us what we are seeking.
Does the thought of not being heard worry or frustrate you? There are ways and means to solve this problem, don't be afraid to ask for help as it sometimes can be as simple as tweaking one or two things in either your preparation or delivery. Just ask!
31st Aug 2020
"You should've asked' I saw this meme on Facebook recently and it really made me think. Here’s the link if you haven’t read it yet. https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/
Read it first and then come back. If this couple depicted knew what effective communication looks like, sounds like and feels like, this situation possibly could have been avoided. Of course, there are many reasons why the situation could have arisen in the first place, but that’s why it is important to find your voice and use your words so every situation can be a win:win (thanks Stephen Covey for this very effective phrase). How can you create a win:win so to avoid this unhappy situation?
We all have brought history into our relationships today. It’s different now, being able to clearly state how it’s going to look and this is how we articulate what we want openly and honestly for our relationships to be healthy and happy.
Of course, easier said than done, it does take strength and perseverance but if we want our situations to improve, it’s up to us to make the changes.
24th Aug 2020
“The view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life. It can determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you accomplish the things you value”. Dweck, C . Mindset: The Psychology of Success. Ballentine Books, New York. 2006.
How’s your self-talk these days? This determines how we view ourselves and if we speak negatively to ourselves (in our heads) it can have a significant impact on how or if we achieve goals we have set for ourselves. Overwhelm, feelings of failure, anxiety can lead to depression if we don’t change how we think of ourselves. Easier said than done? Maybe. The first step is awareness, aware of how we are feeling and how we speak internally about ourselves. Next step is learning strategies to stop our negative thinking in its tracks. Then, reversing the situation to more positive thoughts and self-speak. Sometimes writing things down helps, speaking to someone who knows how to listen well is also extremely helpful (note: people who listen well won’t tell you what to do, won’t tell you to stop being silly or something similar, won’t change the subject by talking about themselves and their issues, and also won’t be negative or derogatory towards your situation. Just so you know what to look for in a good listener, which is key). Learning new strategies for how you should speak to yourself especially if you feel like you aren’t succeeding in work/relationships/life in general. There are some great books out there to help. Apart from Carol Dweck, Karen Nimmo, a New Zealand clinical psychologist’s book Busy As F*ck, HarperCollins. 2019. is excellent.
How about your values. Have you figured out what your top 3 values are? This exercise alone can produce pretty amazing results in how you lead your life. You automatically become more focussed and less likely to self-sabotage your own success. Self-sabotage. Now there’s a topic! This interests me hugely and I will be writing about this further down the track. Mark Manson’s book The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a F#$% HarperCollins, USA. 2016. is outstanding. The title is nothing like what you could possibly think as it’s all about finding your values to live your life by.
There is a short and easy quiz to help you figure out whether you have a fixed mindset or growth mindset according to Carol Dweck, to help you with reaching your goals or increase your levels of achievement. In the mean time here is a link to her TED talk